Kate Wicker

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Grandparents vs. Mommies

While eating breakfast this morning, Madeline was eyeing my coffee. “Coffee not good for me?” she asked.

“It has something called caffeine in it that little kids really shouldn’t have,” I said.

(Yeah, I’m a nursing mom and I drink the real stuff, but rest assured, my lactation consultant/mother-in-law ensures me a little caffeine is just fine. Actually, she’s frequently the one handing me – the tired mommy – a cup of joe. So I suppose my statement wasn’t entirely truthful considering my 6-month-old may get a teeny-tiny bit of caffeine during snack time.)

“‘Member when Nana gave me coffee? In a cup? With milk?”

Nana is the same aforementioned lactation consultant who reported (confessed?) that she recently gave Madeline a cup filled with mostly milk and a drop or two of coffee.

“I remember,” I said. “Grandparents sometimes do things for you as a special treat.”

“But not mommies.” This was not a question. Ouch.

“That’s not true,” I said (defended?). “Mommies do special things for their kids, too.”

Madeline did not look convinced. In fact, from the look her face the score was clear:

Grandparents – 1
Mommies – 0

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· December 21, 2007 · · Filed Under: Tales from the Trenches

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  1. adam brown says

    December 24, 2007 at 1:29 am

    hello, i emailed you but got an error. anyway here’s the reg cleaner i uses, this shit is good, don’t stay without protection!

Hi, I’m Kate

I’m a wife, mom of five kids, writer, speaker, storyteller, bibliophile, runner, eating disorder survivor, and perfectionist in recovery. I'm the author of Getting Past Perfect: Finding Joy & Grace in the Messiness of Motherhood  and Weightless: Making Peace With Your Body.

I’ve tried a lot of things in my life – anorexia, bulimia, law school, teaching aerobics, extended breastfeeding, vegetarianism, trying to be perfect and failing miserably at it – and through it all I’ve been writing. And learning to embrace the messiness of life instead of covering it up, making excuses for it, or being ashamed of my brokenness or my home’s sticky counters.

Nowadays I’m striving every single, imperfect day to strike a balance between keeping it real and keeping it joyful.

 

“She could never be a saint, but she thought she could be a martyr if they killed her quick.”

―Flannery O'Connor

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