I’ve had some people ask about Mary Elizabeth’s birth day, so I thought I’d share some labor day details.
I started having contractions on Saturday (April 4th) evening. They were mild but regular. They faded away for a few hours, but I woke up around 2 AM on Palm Sunday morning with more contractions that were a bit more intense.
That Sunday the contractions continued off and on, but I didn’t really get serious until the afternoon. We decided to meet my parents near the hospital so they could pick up the girls. Dave and I didn’t want to be stuck in the hospital, so we headed outdoors to enjoy the lovely spring day and I walked around, stopping to breathe through contractions. When I’d have a particularly intense contraction, I’d immediately think about how it was Palm Sunday. In fact, as I recently shared, this pregnancy and birth has made my Lent and Easter season so much more meaningful.
When I started to get really serious, we decided it was time to call my midwife. I was admitted to the hospital at 1:45 PM (she arrived shortly thereafter) and discovered I was 7 cm. I knew very little about the hospital since we’d learned only the day before that we’d be delivering there.
The nurses immediately wanted to hook me up to monitoring, something I don’t like. I don’t know how women endure labor when they’re strapped to a bed.
Confined to the bed and monitor, my contractions immediately slowed down but when they came, they were much more difficult to get through. As soon as my midwife arrived, she took off the monitoring belts and told me I could walk around (she’s a Godsend!). She proceeded to show Dave how putting pressure on my hips would ease some of the pain I was experiencing from back labor (I had back labor pain with my first as well).
Before long I was 8 to 9 cm with a bulging bag. At this point, my midwife suggested breaking my bag of waters. While I’m a stickler for not having any medically unnecessary interventions during labor and birth, I did decide to consent to this after talking to my husband and midwife – both of whom I greatly trust.
My water broke and the contractions were immediately more intense. Amazingly, I had Mary Elizabeth less than 10 minutes later. Just before her birth, I doubled over with my most painful contraction and my midwife (who is Catholic) gently squeezed my hand and whispered, “Offer it up.” She then told me to push if I felt the urge to do so. I did push. I was still standing at this point. She suggested we pray a “Hail Mary” but before we could begin, I gasped, “She’s here.”
Our own Mary was actually already crowning. One more intense contraction and a big push later, and they were telling me to pull her onto my chest. I reached down and touched my baby for the first time, pulling her onto my chest. That’s when the tears came. I couldn’t stop crying. It was such a beautiful blur. I didn’t even have time to prepare myself for the pushing stage. The nurses told me I’d pushed for about one minute before she literally popped out.
The hospital staff was wonderful and allowed me to snuggle skin to skin with Mary Elizabeth for quite some time before they performed her newborn assessment. She latched on easily and nursed for about 15 minutes almost immediately after being born. Meanwhile, I continued to cry while my husband stood by our side, watching over his girls.
I have so much to be thankful for – a beautiful birth experience; a supportive and amazing husband turned third-time dad; a skillful, faith-filled, and compassionate midwife who regards her work as a sacred vocation given to her by God himself; a healthy baby who’s a nursing champ; two proud big sisters; the gift of motherhood; and an unforgettable Palm Sunday, Lenten journey, and an Easter where “new life” took on a whole new meaning as I held our newest addition in my arms.
Mary, I am so happy to be a mother to another child. Thank you for granting me a happy and safe delivery and being there with me in my own Bethlehem. I know that you are here with me now as I mother my little girls just as you nurtured our God and creator. Mary, I joyfully praise you and thank you for my bounty of blessings! Amen.
sksherwin says
What a beautiful story, Kate! I love birth stories!
sksherwin says
Also, I cried and cried too, after my sons’ births! And through the tears I said to one of the nurses at my youngest son’s birth (who’d “joked” with me, during hard labor, about “how many kids did you say you wanted?”), “It’s so worth it!”
Angela says
What a wonderful story!! I love birth stories :) Thanks for sharing! It makes my eyes water just reading it…that along with my mega-dose of preggo hormones right now :) Enjoy your little ones!!!!
Thrifty and Chic Mom says
Thanks for sharing what a beautiful delivery. I wish I did not have complications each time, I am always strapped to the bed.
Dan and Janet Brungardt says
Kate,
What a great story! How neat to have a Catholic midwife who remembers to tell you to offer it up. At my last delivery at the non-Catholic hospital, I just “happened” to have a nurse who was wearing a Sacred Heart pin. Beautiful baby!
Janet
Margaret in Minnesota says
She is so beautiful!
You know, I remember asking you how far along you were when you were 30 weeks, and I remember thinking, “She’s so close!” (I was 20 weeks at the time.)
Now I’m 34 weeks and I don’t feel close at all! Aren’t we pregnant women just ridiculous?
Margaret in Minnesota says
PS. Your birth story is lovely. I’m glad you consented to having your bag of waters broken; I don’t think my children would have been born without that! Though the contractions sure get intense.
Oh, and my “Mary” story occurred when I was calling on her during Jem’s delivery and the nurse, who was named Meredith, kept patting me on the arm and saying, “I’m right here, Honey.” :)
Kimberly says
Oh, Kate…what a lovely birth story, beautifully told!
Welcome to your sweet Mary Elizabeth…may she know many years of joy in the heart of your family!
*Jess* says
Totally crying over here, Katie! Thanks for letting us share in the experience of it through your words :)
Aussie Therese says
What a wonderful birth story Kate.
Thanks so much for sharing it with us.
Tracy says
I am so weepy after reading that. God bless all of you. Diane is SUCH a gift to us. And you are one amazing mama!
Catholic Mommy Brain says
Great story!! It’s so wonderful when women feel empowered and joyful about birth!
Megan says
Hello Kate! I’m crying… what a touching story! You are richly blessed!
Andrea says
I know I’m hormonal – common I’m six months pregnant. However that was absolutely beautiful Kate!
I’m so glad it was wonderful and I love what you added about your midwife and the offering it up and saying a Hail Mary.
I have had my two children at home with my mom and other midwife. It’s lovely, both Catholic and devout. I love what they say to me. One of my most precious memories of Landen was my mom telling me the story of Mary being pregnant and giving birth in a stable. I can remember every word to this day.
Lovely, thank you for sharing.