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Mostly Good Chaos

The other night I was attempting to clean up the kitchen. My toddler was uncharacteristically fussy. My preschooler was in tears because Dr. Dad insisted on removing a bandage from a boo-boo to allow it to heal better and she was terrified it was going to hurt to peel off the sticky thing from her skin (it did). And, of course, the baby decided this was the perfect time to hit the milk diner.

Later the older girls retreated upstairs. The baby was happily nursing. Ah, finally some peace and quiet. Then we heard high-pitched squeals from Rae. Then the tiny tyrant (AKA preschooler Madeline) screeching, “No, Baby Rae!”

Dave looked at me. “Sisterly love.”

“I hear it all the time,” I said, not complaining but just simply stating the facts. “It’s the soundtrack of my life.”

We went upstairs to begin the bedtime routine. More squeals (mostly happy now). Lots of questions during story time. Why this and why that. Resistance from Madeline when tucking-in-time arrived.

I sighed, now feeling just a little desperate for a lull in the storm of nighttime parenting when my husband said, smiling, “It’s mostly good chaos.”

It’s wonderful being married to an optimist.

I had to grin right back at him because that about sums up the life of a mom of little ones. Mostly good chaos.

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· May 4, 2009 · Tagged With: Encouragement for Moms · Filed Under: Kate's Blog

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  1. Kris says

    May 4, 2009 at 11:09 am

    What a great line!! That about sums up my life, too. I think we just learn to tune out some of the noise – either that, or our tolerance level increases with every child!!

  2. House of Brungardt says

    May 4, 2009 at 9:00 pm

    I have to agree as well. It’s funny, though, I’ve learned to tune out a lot of it, so when the kids cry, I don’t go running, unless it’s THAT kind of cry. My husband however, will immediately react to the cries, while I’m thinking, “That doesn’t sound serious.” Funny!
    Janet

  3. Lerin says

    May 4, 2009 at 9:23 pm

    I prefer Beautiful Chaos. :)

  4. ViolinMama says

    May 8, 2009 at 3:44 pm

    So sweet!!

Hi, I’m Kate

I’m a wife, mom of five kids, writer, speaker, storyteller, bibliophile, runner, eating disorder survivor, and perfectionist in recovery. I'm the author of Getting Past Perfect: Finding Joy & Grace in the Messiness of Motherhood  and Weightless: Making Peace With Your Body.

I’ve tried a lot of things in my life – anorexia, bulimia, law school, teaching aerobics, extended breastfeeding, vegetarianism, trying to be perfect and failing miserably at it – and through it all I’ve been writing. And learning to embrace the messiness of life instead of covering it up, making excuses for it, or being ashamed of my brokenness or my home’s sticky counters.

Nowadays I’m striving every single, imperfect day to strike a balance between keeping it real and keeping it joyful.

 

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―Flannery O'Connor

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