In response to my Faith & Family LIVE feature on postpartum depression, Suzanne Temple of Blessed Among Men (a favorite blogger of mine even though she’s got a house full of men and we’re overrun with sugar and spice), wrote an excellent follow-up blog post sharing information on the use of progesterone therapy as a NaProTechnology Solution. I agree 100 percent that more women need to know about this effective and natural form of therapy and recommend anyone who has struggled with PPD to read her post to learn more. I should have mentioned progesterone in my feature, especially since this was my first line of attack against depression (more on that in a bit). (There was actually a lot I wanted to write about, but I’d already surpassed my word count. Brevity is not my strong suit.) :-)
confused homemaker says
thank you so much for sharing, may the light continue to shine down on you!
i was diagnosed with PPD after my 4th, i tried all other options before going to an anti-depressant & for me that was what finally worked. of course i still do many of the other changes but it was the use of medication that finally helped me. i've written about it on my blog as well, i was fearful at first about doing it as if speaking about it publicly would give it power over me but i realized that i had to speak about it & in doing so i was truly taking myself back. and thankfully God never gives up on us, even when we are in our darkest moments or deepest struggles.
thank you again for your post.
Patrice Fagnant-MacArthur says
Thank you for sharing your experience. I have suffered from depression since I was 11, and like you, suffered from anorexia as a teen. My longest stretch of depression was when I was pregnant and after. I had two children close in age. My post-partum didn't totally improve until my younger one started sleeping through the night at age 2! It was the longest, most painful 3+ years of my life. I finally sought the help of a spiritual director when my younger son was about 8 months old. I have continued meeting with a spiritual director ever since (nearly 7 years now). I still have depression but it has been a huge help. Like you, I wanted to "tough it out." I think that is a pretty common outlook, especially because we don't want others to see us as weak. We don't want to see ourselves as weak. I encourage anyone who is suffering from depression of any kind to find a professional to talk to. I respect the fact that in your case, you needed medication. In many cases, however, just having someone to talk to can be a tremendous help.
Best wishes!
Catholic Mommy Brain says
I've been dealing with anxiety issues for many years as well, and it's still difficult to talk about! The pride issue of course, as you mentioned :) But that's why it's so important that we all talk about it :)
What I liked best about your approach to this topic was your focus on the range of options available to women. Women should know these options exist and then explore them with their healthcare providers. It's never an either/or and usually an all (or many) of the above. Off to write a post of my own :)
Roger, Michelle, Jena and Lily says
You are truly amazing to share this, I know it will help so many out there. I dealt with depression and anxiety when I was younger. A lot of it was tied to my thyroid condition which can send so many hormones out of whack. After my second child I was so off the charts I thought I was losing my mind. They had to triple my Thyroid meds and also use anti-depressants. I am still dealing with it after a year, but I feel like a fog has lifted. Thanks for this article.
Amber Koter-Puline says
Glad to find you…hope you know about bloggy resources for PPD like Postpartum Progress:
http://www.postpartumprogress.typepad.com and Beyond Postpartum:
http://www.atlantappdmom.blogspot.com
Blessings, Amber
Mary says
On my "running list" of things that trigger more depressed moments are chocolate and coffee. It's hard to cut out the caffiene when you're exhausted, but for me it is very important when trying to regulate my ppd. I also agree that the physical drain on the body of mothers who are pregnant/nursing for years on end is not to be underestimated. I'm pumping the prenatal vitamins during this (sixth) pregnancy, and I'm hoping it will help post-partum.
shaunms says
Thank your for sharing your experience — it is so important for mothers to hear about.
I just want to share about the effectiveness of medication — as people research, they might not realize that news summaries of studies do not always distinguish between types of depression, especially the difference between major and severe depression.
People with severe depression don't need to look at medication as a last resort, any more than someone with a heart attack would take vitamins and go for walks before going to the emergency room.
The research is very clear that for people with *severe depression* medication is more effective than things like therapy and exercise. That is great news, because people with severe depression often need immediate intervention to prevent them hurting themselves or someone else, or otherwise taking actions with long-term consequences.
After the medication is working, then a person can make a much better judgement of how to proceed and prevent or mitigate future episodes.
Charlotte (Matilda) says
I love that you are talking about this so openly. I know how hard it is to own up to some of these feelings and thoughts. It's very courageous of you!
What I think is most important about this conversation is to make women see that there are a myriad of options and encouraging them to try different ones to find the option that works best for them.
That being said, I also want to encourage anyone who has serious reasons for trying to avoid prescription interventions to still seek help. I am proof that it is possible for some to battle back from the depths of this cross without medication provided you are committed to really doing all of the therapy/spiritual direction, nutritional changes, and exercise that you have to.
I don't mean avoiding prescription interventions out of pride, but in my case, a family history plagued with instance after instance of various different kinds of chemical dependencies along with sensitivities to certain medication made me very hesitant to go down that road. But my decision was based on my personal, family history and was the best decision for me.
My therapists and doctors agreed with my desired course of treatment but also reserved the right to tell me if it wasn't working and I would have accepted that decision. Exercise, nutrition, therapy and the Sacrament of Confession over a long period of time were sufficient. And I mean a long period of time. This problem isn't one that can be fixed quickly. It can take months or even years in some cases.
So, if you feel as though prescription interventions are not a very good option for you for reasons other than pride, you can try to do it without. Make sure you have people you trust who will tell you honestly how you are progressing. Make sure you have an outstanding support group (husband, mother, friends) and be prepared for a long haul.
Thank you again, Kate for starting this discussion and being so honest.
Anonymous says
As someone who lives in a northern climate, I envy your Georgia sun! More than that, though, I found out that it is really common for us eskimos to be Vitamin D deficient. I had no idea that I was – my doctor did a blood test and found that I need presciption levels – I couldn't get enough in just over the counter pills. It has really, really helped my energy and mood, and if I forget to take it I can really tell! I highly recommend that anyone ask their doctor about it, b/c it is so much more common than people know! And such a great, natural way to address energy/ mood issues. (Obviously it's not a cure-all, but is one good method.)
Also – and I know this can be controversial, so I just want to share my own experience with this – I found that soy (particularly soy milk) made me crazy, roller-coaster emotional. Someone mentioned to me its estrogen-like quality, so I go off it and it helped so much! I guess my body has enough hormone issues to deal with.
Kate, thank you for sharing all this. I really admire your courage and your humility in opening up!
Maggie says
Thank you for addressing this topic. I haven't had my first baby yet, but since I've struggled with depression in the past and haved used medication to help I am paranoid that I will get PPD. I'm happy that I am at least aware that this could turn out to be an issue with me, and I'm thankful for other Catholic mommies like you who address with topic and offer advice! God bless you!
Lucy says
Hi!
This isn't a comment about your post per se, so you don't need to publish it. I just wanted to invite you to "Kids say the darndest things Friday" blog hop at:
http://mysticalrosedesign.blogspot.com/2010/03/post-signature_19.html
We’d love to have you join the fun and share your stories. I’m sure that you have some real gems! We are also hosting Pro-Life Tuesdays!
In Christ,
Lucy
Amy Webb says
Thank you for the open and thoughtful post. I have not struggled with PPD but did have several months of "baby blues" and anxiety after having my son. I eventually started feeling myself again without intervention but I think it's so important to hear about other mothers' struggles with this so you know you're not alone or crazy. Being a new mom, it was hard to understand what a toll lack of sleep and hormones can take on you. I later found out that one of my good friends experienced PPD and I never even knew it! I think it's so brave that you sought out professional help and treatment. That's shows a lot more strength that trying to "fix" it all by yourself. Thanks for your openness.
Anonymous says
Thank you for your candor. It helps to hear that I'm not alone. I've struggled with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and anger since grade school. Then when I married, I spent five years pregnant and/or nursing, which further confused my hormones, body, and mind. I have tried EVERYTHING natural, and just last week I finally admitted that I couldn't do it alone. I'm starting medication that seems promising, and I'm hoping and praying that this will be my answer for healing and a joyful life.
Darcel says
It's nice to see others talking so openly about PPD. I have a story of my own to share, and I keep saying I'm going to do it before the birth of this baby. I think I worry about what my readers may think.
I've seen several posts over the past two weeks about depression, and PPD. Someone is trying to get my attention!
Young Mom says
Thank you for talking about this. I have struggled with depression several times, and the crying jags and hopelessness sounds very familiar.
Lenetta @ Nettacow says
I also linked to this post on my weekly roundup (in addition to the one at F&FL). I have struggled for a long time, and I finally decided that enough was enough. I routinely pray for new mothers, as I remember how dark and difficult that time was for me. Blessings to all!
Jessica says
You will help so many others by sharing your experience. I'm so proud of you and continue to admire you greatly. Much love.