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7 Quick Takes: The Hodge Podge Edition




It’s been a slow blogging month. It’s not that I’m in a writing rut. I’m replete with ideas, but I really just haven’t felt like diverting my limited energy stores to fleshing out meaningful posts. Every day I jot down thoughts here and there in journals, but nothing seems to go beyond the embryonic stage. I’m also in the editing process for my book, and it feels a bit like repeatedly severing my limbs; it’s been a more painful process than I expected.


Thank goodness for Jen’s QTs. I have a good excuse to just put a bunch of random thoughts out there.


So here’s my mental hodge podge for today. Enjoy (or not).



~1~

It’s official. After much waffling, I’ve decided to definitely attend the Faith & Family Mom’s Day Away on April 2nd. My flight is booked, so there’s no turning back now. This feels like an incredible luxury. I have not gone a solo trip just for me since I’ve been married. The girls will be with their daddy for part of the time and then with my capable parents, and I know they’ll all be having so much fun they’ll barely miss me. Mary Elizabeth will be a few days shy of her second birthday when the event arrives, but I suspect she’ll still be nursing. I’m not too concerned though. I’ll throw a manual pump in my purse, and I suspect she’ll pick up right where she left of upon my return. Actually, I made my first big separation from her back in December, and she did great. Within minutes of our reunion, however, she was asking for “mama milk.” 

The event is in the Boston area, and I’d love to meet any of my readers who might live nearby and will be attending as well as those who are making the big trip as I am in order to refresh their souls. I’m super excited because it looks like I’ll meet some longtime e-friends like Hallie, Melanie (and her new baby due this month!), Dorian, Jen, and more. Dorian is more in the know than I am and has a list of some of the people planning on attending. It looks like I’ll get to see Rachel Balducci again, too – and not on our Southern turf either! (Anyone have a Mafia name for me, by the way? How can I compete with Rachel The Hair Balducci and Pat The Voice Gohn?)

Anyone else planning on being there?






~2~



My 22-month-old’s leg is healing well (despite muddled me putting her boot on the wrong leg yesterday), and she’s completely back to her spunky self. In fact, she’s figured out how to remove the boot, so I’m constantly putting it back on her. She’s also now sporting a nice abrasion below her nose. This happened under a babysitter’s watch, so I’m freed from any responsibility whatsoever. Poor Rachel endured an injury this week as well. She tripped and fell and her mouth hit a decorative table and she scraped her gum up so badly, it looked like bone was poking through. An emergency trip to the pediatric dentist diagnosed her with a bad gum injury. I’ve been praying to my girls’ guardian angels with increased fervor lately.




~3~




6-year-old Madeline: Puff the Magic Dragon [the song] really breaks my heart.


3-year-old Rae: Why?



Madeline: Just because. It’s really hard to explain.


My kids say funny things all of the time, but the seriousness of my daughter when she said this struck me as hilarious. But I do get it: Certain songs really move me, too. Maybe I’ll share a list of some of them next week.



~4~



Today the older girls and I are taking Gaba (my mom) to the Baron York Tea Room. We’re so excited for the all-girls’ outing even if it’s sleeting again in Georgia. Madeline and Rae have been planning what they’re going to wear for weeks (pretty, smocked dresses that were Christmas gifts from my parents), and we’ve been practicing our best manners during our tea time at home. Stay tuned for a report on the girls’ day out!


~5~




Homeschooling is going. I’m not about to say it’s going well or badly. It’s just going right now, and I have to be satisfied with that. Last summer I created an elaborate grid that outlined all the reading and topics and lessons we’d cover daily. Then I made a second grid to cover each month that included themes and saints related to the liturgical year. It was very pretty on paper (oh how I love charts! I’m a serious geek) and quite ambitious of me to be so organized, but it was also terribly unrealistic. 

Needless to say, we have not stuck to that beautiful chart much at all, but we have learned a thing or two. Sometimes I worry more about Rachel than her big sister who’s the only school age one. Is she getting lost in the shuffle? What is she learning? Then the other day she was playing pretend with a boat zooming around. “

“Where are you headed?” I asked.

“To Mesopotamia,” she said.

Okay, so she’s learning by osmosis.

We’re always read lots of books, which makes me happy. I’d much prefer to read a book aloud to my children than to have to engage in imaginary play where I don’t talk right or do things right. Do any of your kids have elaborate imaginary congresses that legislate laws you’re always breaking?

We’ve had afternoon teas where we’ve discussed saints and practiced our manners. On Wednesday, we had a Candlemas tea. When I was reading about the Presentation from my all-time favorite children’s bible, Rae blurted out, “When Mary saw Jesus on the cross, she said, ‘Oh my poor son, right?'” Only three years young, but she gets the sword piercing the heart thing. 

So I guess my kids are learning – even the smallest ones. 

I’ve been happy with our slower pace. So have my children. The feelings of burnout had started to sneak up on me, and Madeline seemed to be balking at more formal work, too. For all of its challenges, the flexibility to adjust our schedule and rhythm is such a blessing of homeschooling.

 



~6~




All that said, my 6-year-old loves math and sees number crunching as a fun, so I’d really like to find some good math websites out there where she could continue to master her addition and subtraction facts while feeling like she was indulging in a game. Any suggestions? I’m not sure where to begin.




~7~



The same day I published this post, David Mills published an excellent piece on the antidote to being an anxious parent.

An excerpt: “I didn’t pay much attention when John Paul II was elected, nor to his first sermon as pope, but some years later when I first came across his declaration “Be not afraid,” I thought it a pretty lame declaration with which to start one’s work. It seemed to me a platitude like “brush between meals” and “eat more fiber,” not a call to arms. Yeah, sure, whatever, I thought. Biblical slogans are a dime a dozen.


But I was still young then and had not seen how many ways the world has to make you afraid. Just have children and a world of imagined and unimaginable horrors will present itself to you, and minor inconveniences or hurts will appear to be losses from which your child will never recover, and every decision and choice one that can lead as easily to misery as to success. Oddly enough, affluence does not necessarily make you feel more secure, but usually just multiplies the reasons you can find to be afraid and increases the triviality of the results you fear.



I had not seen how hopes quickly become fears, and how the deepest hopes become the worst fears, and how the fallen heart can manufacture reasons to be afraid even from blessings, like education. You might believe, sincerely, when your child is eight or ten that the only education you want for him is one that will teach him what he needs to know about literature and art and history, which can be provided at any number of schools, including the cheap and unknown ones.”



Do read all of it, especially the last paragraph. Be not afraid, my friends. Be not afraid!



Have a good weekend!  Jen, thanks for hosting!












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· February 4, 2011 · Tagged With: 7 Quick Takes, Encouragement for Moms, Homeschooling, Mom Humor · Filed Under: Child 1, Child 2, Kate's Blog, Seven Quick Takes

Comments

  1. Kylie says

    February 4, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    So which is your favorite children's bible?

  2. Jen Ambrose says

    February 4, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    Math programs–do you have an iThing? Moms with Apps has a lot of recommendations as does iHomeEducator. In face iHomeEducator has some I'm looking at but waffling ($4.99!)

  3. Diana Werling says

    February 4, 2011 at 5:34 pm

    Hey Kate, so sorry that things have been rough going with ME! Soudns like she has bounced back. We moms just do the best we can, you know? Sadie just had surgery on an impacted tooth from taking a header on the driveway–mama feeling bad there.

    We have Games for Math by Peggy Kaye–might be something to check out. Thanks also for the link to the kids bible–I've been looking for the next step up from the rhyming bible the kids enjoy.

    Have fun at tea!

  4. Karen says

    February 4, 2011 at 6:13 pm

    Can I say woohoo! you will be coming to my neck of the woods! I have had tickets since the last day had to be postponed in October…. maybe just so we could meet up! (yeah, cuz it is all about me ya know)
    Glad ME is doing better and we should compare pretty schedules (they were laughing at me today at the hs group, I gotta make all the Treasurer's reports pretty, too)
    Have a Blessed Weekend

  5. Kate Wicker @ Momopoly says

    February 4, 2011 at 7:01 pm

    Kylie, there's a link to the Catholic kids' bible. It's a great one.

    Yippie! So glad I'll get to meet you, Karen.

    Thanks to all for the well-wishes for Mary Elizabeth. She's doing great.

  6. Stina says

    February 5, 2011 at 4:10 am

    Ooh! I want to go! I used to drive through Stoneham a lot when we lived in Boston. I looked into going months ago, but then I kind of forgot about it. Now you have my mind going again…

  7. Kate Wicker @ Momopoly says

    February 5, 2011 at 11:39 am

    Stina, please come! :-)

  8. Kate Wicker @ Momopoly says

    February 5, 2011 at 12:55 pm

    Don't know what's up with my screwy formatting. Sorry folks.

  9. Caroline says

    February 5, 2011 at 12:55 pm

    Hi there! I am a FREQUENT and GRATEFUL reader of your blog… I look to it for advice at times, and you always deliver! Thank you for that. :) I am replying to your question on math websites. You probably know that many school websites now have links accessible to families to use. The few favorites of my students are http://www.coolmath4kids.com, funbrain.com, and then there is one that gives flash cards (gradelevel appropriate) and times them, http://www.harcourtschool.com. I hope this helps and I did not waste your time with something you already knew!

  10. Michelle says

    February 5, 2011 at 3:10 pm

    Mom's day away…very tempting. It's right before my birthday, so I could have the trip as a present…must think on this.

  11. Kate Wicker @ Momopoly says

    February 5, 2011 at 5:35 pm

    Think hard, Michelle. :-)

  12. Muttering Mother says

    February 5, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    My 6 year old got this for Christmas which stoked her maths fervour: http://www.amazon.com/University-Games-01236-Magic-Cauldron/dp/B000AMJVP8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296928576&sr=8-1 Don't know where you stand on wizardry of course… :-)

  13. Kate Wicker @ Momopoly says

    February 5, 2011 at 7:25 pm

    Thanks for all of the great math games/websites/resources recommendations. I'll have to check them out!

  14. Jennifer G. says

    February 8, 2011 at 3:22 am

    Ahhh…#7 was especially what I needed! Thanks!

Hi, I’m Kate

I’m a wife, mom of five kids, writer, speaker, storyteller, bibliophile, runner, eating disorder survivor, and perfectionist in recovery. I'm the author of Getting Past Perfect: Finding Joy & Grace in the Messiness of Motherhood  and Weightless: Making Peace With Your Body.

I’ve tried a lot of things in my life – anorexia, bulimia, law school, teaching aerobics, extended breastfeeding, vegetarianism, trying to be perfect and failing miserably at it – and through it all I’ve been writing. And learning to embrace the messiness of life instead of covering it up, making excuses for it, or being ashamed of my brokenness or my home’s sticky counters.

Nowadays I’m striving every single, imperfect day to strike a balance between keeping it real and keeping it joyful.

 

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―Flannery O'Connor

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